- AC/DC top
Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi;
- ADULT top
Euphemism for pornographic.
- ALL CULTURES top
Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)
- AMERICAN CULTURE top
Man on top, the missionary position.
- ANAL SEX top
Anal intercourse; see Greek, Greek Culture.
- ANALINGUS top
Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking,
or sucking of the other.
- ANIMAL TRAINING top
Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women; Bestiality
- ARTS top
Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures
- B&D or B/D top
Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while
administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her
"slave". (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
- BBW top
Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their "ideal"
weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are..
- BESTIALITY top
(see ANIMAL TRAINING)
- BI top
Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
- BI-CURIOUS top
A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
- BIZARRE top
Unusual sexual desires
- BONDAGE top
A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or
leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual
partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant"
while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
- CAN ENTERTAIN top
Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
- CAN TRAVEL top
Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.
- CANING top
A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light
- CHEATING top
Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
- CLEAN top
Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases
- CLOSED DOOR top
(see CLOSED SWINGING)
- CLOSED SWINGING top
Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the
same house. Provides a maximum of privacy.
- CLOSET SWINGER top
A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
- COUPLE top
In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating),
committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging
- CPL top
- CUCKOLD top
While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it
has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without
him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband
who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can
also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to
mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in
order to clarify the definition.
- CULTURE top
Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.
- CUNNILINGUS top
Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue
and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
- DILDO top
An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation
of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
- DIRECTOR top
The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise
operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the
director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not
for pay, is generally called a Manager.
- DISCIPLINE top
A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing
participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner,
ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
- DISCREET OR DISCRETION top
Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children
or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or
made aware of the swinging activity.
- DOCILE top
Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
- DOMESTIC TRAINING top
Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating
- DOMINANT top
A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
- ELLIS top
A generally accepted code name used to identify members of the swinging lifestyle.
Ellis stands for L.S. (Lifestyle). The question "Are you a friend of Ellis?" can be used to help identify a member of the lifestyle without compromising confidentiality
- ENGLISH CULTURE top
Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning
- ENTERTAIN top
(see CAN ENTERTAIN)
- EXHIBITIONIST top
Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure
from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched.
- F top
- FELLATIO top
Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue
and lips and sometimes teeth.
- FETISH top
Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions
or non-genital anatomy.
- FLAGELLATION top
Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.
- FRENCH CULTURE top
Oral-genital sexual activity;(see Fellatio, Cunnilingus)
- FUN AND GAMES top
Euphemism for sexual activity.
- GAY top
A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called
- GBM top
Gay Black Male
- GENEROUS top
Refers to money for sex.
- GREEK CULTURE top
- GROUP ROOM top
Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall
mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
- GROUP SEX top
Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
- GWM top
Gay White Male
- HARD CORE top
A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed
- HARD SWINGING top
(see HARD CORE)
- HEAD top
Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" (see French
- HEDONIST top
Someone who lives for pleasure.
- HETEROSEXUAL top
Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
- HOMOSEXUAL top
Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)
- HORNY top
Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.
- HUNG top
Refers to a man with a large penis.
- HWP top
Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
- INDOOR top
Swinging activities in general
- INDOOR SPORTS top
- INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP top
Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational
- IRL top
In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
- ISO top
In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
- LEATHER top
A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather
or leather garments.
- LESBIAN top
A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)
- LTR top
Long Term Relationship
- MARITAL AIDS top
Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self
- MASOCHISM top
Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
- MASTER/SLAVE top
Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
- MATROOM top
Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
- MEET FOR PLEASURE top
Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction
not directly related to sexual activity.
- MENAGE A' TROIS top
Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging
interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD)
- MORESOMES top
More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP
- MBC top
Married Black Couple
- MBiC top
Married Bisexual Couple
- MWC top
Married White Couple
- NASCA top
The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs
and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle
it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate
and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community,
media and institutions of learning and research.
- NEWCOMERS top
New people in swinging; First-timers.
- NONSMOKER top
Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke
are sought for swinging purposes.
- OFF-PREMISE top
No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your
own arrangements. Great for newcomers.
- OPEN DOOR top
(see OPEN SWINGING)
- OPEN SWINGING top
A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all
participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy.
- ORAL-GENITAL top
(see FRENCH CULTURE, CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, HEAD)
- ORGY top
Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete
absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.
- PARTY top
Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
- PARTY CLOTHES top
Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to
the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes
robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that
is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes
selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and
- PARTY HOUSE (Western US) top
A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise
- PASSIVE top
Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training.
Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
- PHOTO top
Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with
similar photos of others.
- PHOTOGRAPHY top
Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs,
color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of
others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
- P/P top
Photo and phone number (used in personal ads).
- PRO top
Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
- RECREATIONAL SWINGER top
A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion;
not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment.
- RESTRAINT top
Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
- ROMAN top
Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE)
- ROMAN CULTURE top
- RUBBER top
Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look,
feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.
- SADISM top
Sexual gratification through inflicting pain and humiliation on others.
- SAFE top
Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who
has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.
- S.A.S.E. top
Self-addressed stamped envelope.
- SBF top
Single Black Female
- SBiF top
Single Bisexual Female
- SBM top
Single Black Male
- SGL top
- S&M or S/M top
Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
- SINGLE top
A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.
- SOCIAL top
A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club
or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging
at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
- SOCIAL SWING CLUB top
A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging
activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.
They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there
is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular
maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples
though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
- SODOMY top
Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite
sex or same sex partner.
- SOFT SWINGERS top
Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping
- SOFT SWINGING top
The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or
any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone
other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type
of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
- SRS top
Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
- STD top
Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to
replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the
minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the
legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
- STR or STR8 top
- STRAIGHT top
Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity
or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote
- SUBMISSIVE top
Passive, wishes to be dominated (see Passive)
- SWAPPING top
Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
- SWEDISH CULTURE top
Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
- SWF top
Single White Female
- SWING MAGAZINE top
A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal
ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also
publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.
- SWINGING top
An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational
sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis,
with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men
and women are sometimes involved.
- SWINGING LIFESTYLE top
Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice
of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
- SWINGING MARRIAGE top
Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
- SWM top
Single White Male
- TAN top
Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus(AIDS)
- THREESOME top
Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see Menage a Trois)
- TICKET top
A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable
the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to
swing or is not free to swing.
- TOYS top
Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
- TRANSSEXUAL top
Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through
surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender
- TRANSVESTITE top
A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified
with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.
- TRAVEL top
(see CAN TRAVEL)
- TRIAD top
Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship
of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
- TRIOLISM top
Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes".
This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)
- TUBAL LIGATION top
Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make
a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to
the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and
- UTOPIAN SWINGER top
A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic
- VASECTOMY top
Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially
sterilize a male.
- VERSATILE top
Bisexual. (see AC/DC)
- VIBRATOR top
Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion
or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some
vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive
ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall
outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation
and to sexually please another.
- VOLUPTUOUS top
Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large
well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
- VOYEUR top
A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
- VOYEURISM top
Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual
- WAY-OUTS/WEIRDOS top
Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority
to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.